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GriefSPEAK: The depth of a widow’s grief – Mari Nardolillo Dias
by Mari Nardolillo Dias, EdD. contributing writer “A widows peak was known as a sign that a woman would be an early widow. None in today’s column have a widows peak “ “Standing on the water’s edge you think you’re in control. Until she lulls you into depths no one would know… She’s so cold and…
Read MoreGriefSPEAK: Chasing the light – Mari Nardolillo Dias
by Dr. Mari Nardolillo Dias, contributing writer There are at least two ways of looking at almost everything. Including grieving the loss of a loved one. The most common triad of emotions are fear, loneliness and yearning. Sometimes grievers can get “stuck” and often lost. Grievers avoid “triggers”- a song, a smell, touch and/or photos–…
Read MoreGriefSPEAK: We must be our own best advocate. Our lives can depend on it. – Mari Nardolillo Dias
by Mari Nardolillo Dias, contributing writer on grief and grieving It all began with pain in my knee. I was on a zoom call and had extended my leg to rest on a chair when my knee locked. While unlocking it, I felt a sharp, stabbing, throbbing pain shoot up my leg. Hmmmm. A solitary…
Read MoreGriefSPEAK: Looking for Liars – Mari Nardolillo Dias
by Mari Nardolillo Dias, EdD, contributing writer Looking for Liars (Lyrics by the Complaints and Joe Martira) I understand the loneliness that widows live with on a daily basis. Many find themselves on dating websites, looking for someone to talk with, share their day, a meal, or an adventure. This is the case of MJ.…
Read MoreGriefSPEAK: A plan to “keep on keeping on” – Mari Nardolillo Dias
by Mari Nardolillo Dias, EdD, contributing writer Claudia, a 50 year old woman, tells me she has spent several days in the recent past standing on the shore of the beach in Hyannis, contemplating her death. A lover of water, and a widow of 3 weeks, she tells me she has no reason to live. Her…
Read MoreGriefSPEAK: Happy belated Birthday, America! – Mari Nardolillo Dias
by Dr. Mari Nardolillo Dias “…What’s that I smell in the air? The American Dream” (Miss Saigon) Happy Birthday to America! (She, her, hers). America turned 247 years old this week amidst torrential rains. I can hear the belated fireworks now, several days later. Many feel she has survived but is currently in the intensive care…
Read MoreGriefSPEAK: Faith conquers all, including grief – Mari Nardolillo Dias
by Dr. Mari Nardolillo Dias, contributing writer on grief and grieving From the desk of Deborah Manzo McDonald: “My son JoJo died 7 years ago from an accidental overdose. How do you measure a year? 525,600 minutes? How can it be 7 years without him? Three million, six hundred seventy-nine thousand two hundred minutes? Counting those minutes…
Read MoreGriefSPEAK: Does knowing the details ease our grief – Mari Nardolillo Dias
by Dr. Mari Nardolillo Dias, contributing writer Grievers often need an explanation of a sudden death. The belief (although perhaps irrational, in many situations) is based on that “knowing of the details” will ease the numbness, the surreality. Help them exhale. Manage their grief. The woman who believes that the “knowing” all the details of…
Read MoreGriefSPEAK: Empty Arms – Mari Nardolillo Dias
by Dr. Mari Nardolillo Dias, contributing writer Kara came home from Women and Infants Hospital with empty arms. Her pregnancy with her baby girl, Martha, seemed normal, according to ultrasounds. She was at thirty weeks when her OB thought Kara looked dehydrated and pale. He sent her to a local hospital who didn’t see anything…
Read MoreGriefSPEAK: Safe, family time memories of childhood sick days – Mari Nardolillo Dias
by Mari Nardolillo Dias, contributing writer on grief and grieving I chewed a Bayer aspirin, 81 mg, this morning. I felt a undefinable, uncontrollable pull, like the canister at the bank drive-up window. Woosh. My destination was my childhood. And the soft, warm, safe feeling of being home, sick. These moments always included: flat ginger…
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