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By: Mari Dias
I have heard this pandemic compared to several Stephen King novels, “The Hunger Games”, “Divergent”, and for the older folks “The Twilight Zone”. At the outset, everyone scrambled for necessities and followed every edict heard, both nationally and locally. It seems like we have only recently come out of our stupor and have begun to take stock in our own views and not follow like a herd of supplicant sheep. We (or I) recognized we still have choices.
Since my childhood, my family has referred to me as “Mari quite contrary”, and perhaps that moniker was appropriate then, but now I see it as a passionate fire to take control of my life as I see fit. Pre Covid-19, I was teaching in a classroom, seeing clients in my office, and volunteering for Teen Challenge Rhode Island and the American Red Cross. I was swimming about a mile every day at my local gym and bringing my dogs to the dog park.
When the virus attacked, I, like many, experienced a modicum of fear, surreality and panic; however, when I traveled to Florida in early January, I wore a mask – despite the cry not to wear one. I began to come out of the Covid-19 vacuum to use my common sense. Since then I have made modifications in my lifestyle that make this existence more palatable. I remembered and reminded myself again: I have a choice. We all have choices.
When we get caught up in both the minutiae and the significance of the impact of this pandemic, we risk becoming myopic. We are intelligent, adept human beings who want to empower ourselves and be empowered by others. I for one do not want to be enabled. We can recognize and make choices, (albeit limited at this time), but choices none the less. We simply need a bit of ingenuity and creativity and the ability to be independent, passionate…and maybe a bit “contrary”.
Dr. Dias is 67 years old with a very active lifestyle and no immune deficiencies.
Dr. Mari Dias is a nationally board-certified counselor, holds a Fellow in Thanatology and is certified in both grief counseling and complicated grief.
She is Professor of Clinical Mental Health, Master of Science program, Johnson & Wales University. Dias is the director of GracePointe Grief Center, in North Kingstown, RI. For more information, go to: http://gracepointegrief.com/